The strength of our sexual energy can dictate our overall vitality or vital energy. When sexual energy gets stuck it can create people to feel uninspired, not creative and can cause health dis-eases in their body. Major blocks for men in their sexual energy can been seen through illness such as heart disturbances, shallow breath, ulcers and headaches. In women, it has been reported to have an increase in precancerous abnormalities and cervical cancer. Women who had perceived negative experiences in childhood have a higher risk of cervical cancer.

There are many reasons people shut down their sexual energy. Diet plays a role in the opening up or shutting down of sexual energy.  Caffeine-containing products (such coffee, tea, etc.), if consumed frequently, also negatively affect the sexual function, since caffeine stimulates mostly the sympathetic section of the nervous system.

In addition the development of higher religions and beliefs systems, sexuality was understood as something that needed to be controlled or hidden from formal society. Yet, there are many false constructs in the Church – for example, that it is more blessed to give than to receive. But in actuality, it’s impossible to give without receive, or to receive without giving. It is a paradox, an illusion.

Some men and women can have difficulties reaching orgasm due to their being in a chronic state of stress. Stress is your inability to adapt to a changing environment. One of the typical features of stressful states is the inability to get into the proper mood and concentrate on sexual feelings during a sexual intercourse. Distractions are a cause of being absent with your lover or yourself, which may block or stop an orgasm.

In a relationship, a lack of communication when it comes to what is important to each partner can easily close the door to a more intimate connection with your partner. Therefore if there are unresolved relationship conflicts lying dormant under the surface, this may prevent orgasms. And similarly, a lack of trust can have the same impact.

Some women shut down because they have restrictions on what they want to and don’t want to do in the bedroom. They may not feel comfortable in their skin, attractive enough; have issues with their weight as they compared their bodies to what they used to be 20 years ago among other reasons behind shutting off their sexuality.

Let me give you an example of a woman shutting her sexuality down. Your man asks you to make love you automatically say ‘no’ without even thinking about it. Or he takes you to bed, throws you down, rips your clothes off, all of which you are enjoying, then as you are making love. Then without warning  he slaps you on the arse. You immediately get defensive. You stop the act and block your sexual energy.

There are women who love slapping and get excited by it, yet there are other women who find it disrespectful. The only difference in whether you enjoy or despise an act like this is in your mind – your perception of the experience.

One of the biggest reason people block or spot and orgasm in here in your mind! We have blocks and charges around our sexual experiences and in the past that we haven’t taken the time to dissolve. Perhaps it blocks about certain sexual acts, or talk about sex, or certain smells that trigger you to withdraw your sexual expression.

Remember the purpose of marriage is to find someone with parts of you that you repress so they will express them and you can learn to love more of yourself. So often we blame the charge outwardly on someone else – our partner – and in actuality, it is a charge and issue within ourselves that is unresolved. So rather than shutting off your sexuality, allow yourself the opportunity to lover your partner and yourself deeper.

When I have worked with clients on their sexual charges, they have better sex and intimacy with their partner, and they learn how to communicate what they want inside of their partner’s values so they feel they are getting what they want also. Other clients have manifested partners, as their charges are no longer in the way and stopping them for having someone to share life with. Some men have said that they have stopped using pornographic material and are having more intimacy with their wife and business and consequently profit has increased.

There are many benefits to taking the time to dissolve your sexual charges.

Activity

What do you think your biggest reason that is blocking you from having a more fulfilling orgasm or sex life?

How does it serve you the way that it is?

List 20 benefits until you can be grateful for it being this way.

Gratitude is a powerful process for shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more to be grateful for.

Love,

Miss X

Let’s talk about God and sex. First, when I mention God, I’m not talking about the personification of a man sitting in heaven watching and judging us. If you were to imagine our vast universe which is ever expanding. Within that, picture the middle, and in there is the center and the supermen deity, god, the grand organized designer and energy field which governs all things.

The grand organized designer is omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient. It is governed by universal law, the laws of nature not human morality law. These laws are the law of balance, compensation and fair exchange to name a few. These laws are what our universe is governed by, not by our ethical or morality laws. There is symmetry, proportion, order and beauty in everything; every action, every thought, every deed.

Man thinks himself as one of countless many men, each one a separate being, each one an individual person. We have been evolving from tribes in the jungle to the top of the mountain, moving from our senses to a knowing over many centuries. From a sense of individuality to find universality of knowing God. Through our evolution we are moving from being fragmented to being one, no separation between self and other. Yet where does sex fit in with God?

Anything that does not serve a purpose goes extinct. Darwin said it as survival of the fittest. Therefore every trait and action is necessary for our own evolution. Traits are no bad or good. In the plot are good and bad, hero and villain, saint and sinner, dark and light, humor and pathos, happiness and agony, kindness and intolerance. Without these there would be no play. The play write loves each part of his creation equally with the whole as One idea. So our thoughts and actions, sex, sexual pleasure and pain is important for our human species to evolve, if not, it wouldn’t be here.

It may be a far stretch for people to think that every sexual act and thought serves a purpose. But I ask where is God not? How could there not be a divine perfection or purpose to everything, even in our darkest moments? Sometimes our greatest curses become a Godsend, and our greatest blessing, depending on our attitude and perceptions. What makes us all different and view our physical experience differently, is by our thinking.

Sex has been viewed as a very physical and sinful experience. Yet lets probe even further, deep sexual experience, whether with ourselves or someone else can give us a profoundly deep spiritual experience. It can create a oneness with the grand organized designer, a oneness with the person we are with. Sometimes, the room disappears, you do not hear anything else around, and you are totally present in the moment. Connected. One with you. You transcend all human feeling for an enlightened spirit-sexual experience.

So not only can you achieve a connection to God via pray, mediation but also through a deeply connected spiritual experience.

How to achieve a deeply connected spiritual experience coming soon!

With gratitude,

Miss X

Just like you have a unique set of values that determine how you see act and feel the world, you also have a sexual set of values. Your sexual value system is your beliefs, attitudes or feelings about sex and sexuality.

It is important to communicate with your partner outside and inside of the bedroom. Talk about your desires, your fantasies, what feels good to you, and what doesn’t work for you.

Is it ok to masturbate?

How do you like to have sex?

When do you like to have sex?

Do you like sex talk?

Do you like to be in control or be controlled?

Do you like sameness or difference?

Is sex you can discuss with your partner?

What are your sexual boundaries? (what will you not do)

Am I being myself?

What makes me feel masculine/feminine? List three

What are the best describe the sex I like? List three

How do you like your partner be when you have sex? List three

How do I feel about myself when I have sex?

How do you like to fill your space when you have sex?

Sex can be a highly spiritual experience. If your partners sexual values determinations are very different to you, take some time to link them to see how the way they like sex fulfill you and vice versa.

Practice making love as you are, not as you want to be. Don’t force yourself to be anything you are not. Accept who you are, embrace who you are, and empower who you are. Transform, love and evolve. Take out the expectation to have an orgasm or your partner must have one too. Reconnect together.

Male energy expands explosively while female sexual energy warms up slowly. In addition, male heart center is not as active as the woman’s. Because of this discord, very often women don’t have a chance to truly open their sexual energy with their partners. Men and women both need to learn how to harmonize their differences.

First you practice to learn the two basic skills of avoiding an orgasm and circulating energy. Initially it is advisable to practice alone with self-pleasuring. You stop shortly before the orgasm, and with breath control and imagination draw the energy upwards. When able to do this it is preferable to try with a partner of the opposite sex as it involves exchanging male and female sexual energies.

Imagine a hot fire ball in your pelvis – a small ball of sexual energy. Imagine it warm up and expanding. As you breathe, the fire ball moves up to your heart, and on the exhale, back to your pelvis. Feel yourself open and expand. You can practice this own your own or with your partner where you move the ball of fire from his penis to your vagina, up to your heart and out to his heart. Continue to do this to get present and connected. Breathe synchronously.

Practice the art of being present. If you have a tendency to fantasies about other people or events, deconstruct the fantasy. What is the counter nightmare? Fantasies of other people and experiences create challenges in your relationship. As long as there is a fantasy there will be a nightmare. What are the drawbacks of the fantasy?

If you want to be a better lover, than take to time to learn to circulate your energy. Be OK with opening your heart to your woman, be vulnerable, but strong. Deliberately use sexual energy to rejuvenate and increase longevity, rather than as a quick act of pleasure and release.

Focus on the inner feeling awareness as well as on the feeling of complete union with the partner. Caresses and slow controlled movements during intercourse generate a steady stream of sexual energy. This shifts the focus of love-making from the sexual organs to the heart. Breathe together.

What is it that you really admire, like in your partner?

List 20 answers to this question

If you are single:

List the qualities you want in your partner and list displaying them in now

If you are single and want a relationship:

Write 20 benefit of being single – make your unconscious conscious

The only way you can do enjoy a more fulfilling intimate connection with your lover is to take the time to understand your own sexual values, dissolve your charges around sex and intimacy, learn to cultivate and use your sexual energy, create a balance between being romantic and sexual, and experiment – in other words, lots of practice!!

Take the time to work on your mind and then the physical activities. It is first and foremost your mind that will govern your physical experience. Let this be the beginning of a love affair with yourself. Let you find love with yourself and your partner when you awaken lover within.

Love,

Miss X

In the shocking and hilarious documentary ORGASM INC., filmmaker Liz Canner takes a job editing erotic videos for a drug trial for a pharmaceutical company. Her employer is developing what they hope will be the first Viagra drug for women that wins FDA approval to treat a new disease: Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD). Liz gains permission to film the company for her own documentary. Initially, she plans to create a movie about science and pleasure but she soon begins to suspect that her employer, along with a cadre of other medical companies, might be trying to take advantage of women (and potentially endanger their health) in pursuit of billion dollar profits. ORGASM INC. is a powerful look inside the medical industry and the marketing campaigns that are literally and figuratively reshaping our everyday lives around health, illness, desire — and that ultimate moment: orgasm.

Orgasm Inc. A must watch movie for all women

When you are phoned by your local doctor and asked to come in and to see them immediately you know something is wrong. My doctor called me on a Thursday afternoon and as I sat down in his office he said

“So you recently had a pap smear and the results have come in.  When was your last Pap smear?”

To his shock I said over 5 years ago. The last one had irregular cells for a number of years but then it was ok the last time I checked. He explained the results and I asked him what it meant. He went on to tell me there is a high probability that you have cancer.

I could hear a pin drop. The world stopped spinning.

So here I am, two months has passed by, two specialists and surgery later.

So my intuition has been right in guiding me to have a pap smear but I ignored it.

During the past 5 years I can distinctly remember my intuition saying to me “go and get a pap smear”. Each time something came up or I was menstruating.  I am grateful I had it now and didn’t continue to find some other excuse.

After going home feeling like a zombie and not quiet sure what to make of the past 2 hours. I went online like all avid researchers do. It took me a while to realize that the doctor was incorrect. Yes, incorrect in informing me on my probability of cancer. Only 5% of women with pre cancerous cells develop into cancer. It is a long process in development, it can be up to 10 years. That is 95% of women who’s cells do not progress to cancer.

The first specialist said without doing a biopsy that I had to have surgery. I know that I first needed the results of the biopsy before making the decision to have surgery. There are downsides to surgery. One being the slight increase of miscarriages. My mind was saying this doctor was after money. He just wanted me to have the surgery and do the biopsy all at once. It just didn’t gel with me. So I found another specialist who was 3 hours drive away. We connect instantly and because he spoke to me in my values. He gave me stats and information and examples of cases that were similar to mine which helped me to understand what was going on for me.

Its interesting how reassured I felt then. My results came back and I have CIN 3, high grade pre cancerous cells. It was in my best interest to have the surgery.

Surgery went well, I just have cramps now and a little spotting but nothing out o the ordinary.  As the doctors reminded me of what I can not do over the next month which include no strenuous exercise, no swimming in public pools or sex. I think about asking him “ What about anal sex!”

I told Romeo leading up to the procedure that it means that we can not have sex until I am healed and you could see in his eyes the sadness. It’s like telling your best friend that you cant be close with them for a month.  We make love and for us it is like connecting with each other’s souls. No matter what goes on in our lives, when we make love it is a spiritual experience. We go to places we don’t get to experience here on earth. We have a sense of one-ness, that there is no difference between him and I.

So no sex. This will be interesting.  Romeo says after some time processing what it actually means for him. He came to me tonight and said

“its a new evolution of our relationship, lets connect like we used to and lay in bed, snuggle, talk and you can fall asleep in my arms.”

We have both decided to take this next month and get curious about connecting differently. Relationships follow patterns as all human behavior is patterned. So allowing us to break the pattern, to do something different is exciting to us. I am beginning to think of ways to tantalize and to flirt with him without being sexual.

So we take a the biggest blessing out of this situation and open up to possibility.

I’m reading a book written early last century. Here is a bit of information about the beautiful masks women used to wear

“at the theater well born ladies concealed their faces do that they should not be seen blushing as scenes.  In the 17th century courting was punished by a heavy fine or corporal punishment. So In the gardens they wore masks to to flirt with men while not being impropper.”

Interesting.

An orgasm can be so illusive sometimes. It may seem the more you want it and the harder you try it just won’t happen. The clitoris has more nerve endings that any other part of the body, more than 8000 to be precise. Every woman is different with what they like, some like it rough, others cannot even stand a light touch, and some love it to be rubbed, sucked, and nibbled on.

The clitoris swells during stimulation. It wasn’t until 1998 that researchers discovered that it swells to twice the size. It was also only in the 1800s was pelvic massage or clitoris stimulation used to treat female hysteria. During this time, males would treat women who could orgasm by amputating their clitoris and creating a chastity belt to prevent the woman from pleasure. They have only recently discovered the A and U spot. In the 19^th century it was a disease and in the 20^th century it is a cure. This shows that the medical understanding of the female orgasm and anatomy is only beginning to be understood. It is no wonder some women are confused about their own pleasure.

Women’s potential to orgasm is endless. Women can utilize this creative energy in their daily life. An orgasm is a build up of pleasurable experiences in the body and in the mind. Notice what the mind is saying, not saying, doing or not doing that may be inhibiting your sensations and feelings.

Most people will hold their breath close to and during their orgasm. The breath is so important to help stimulate the energy around your body. As you get close to orgasm, breath deeply to intensify your experience. Breathe deeply, slowly and fully.

How you feel about yourself will play a part in your ability or inability to orgasm. Do you like yourself or your partner or are you pissed off with them or you?
Religion also plays a role in reaching orgasms. The Catholic Church is against masturbation and due to this rule; most women have not experimented and as a result not learned to orgasm on their own.

Learning to move your sexual energy away from your gentiles into your entire body helps you to connect with your feelings of excitement, contact and connection with yourself.  We have the ability to connect with this energy at all times when we learn how to channel it into work, relationships, ourselves and what is most important to us.

This sexual energy isn’t created; it is already there inside each and every one of us. We may shut it down due to our perception of bad event in our lives or because it is our strategy to not be close to the partner we are with.

Before self-loving, channel the sexual energy around your body through your breath so you can experience the flowing energy, intensify your intimacy with yourself.  Slowly you will become more in tune with your own body and your own sexual energy.

The only way you can do this is experiment. Imagine that your sexual energy is a cup inside your pelvis, move your hips around slowly, feeling the energy moving around inside you. Breathe and contract your PC muscles take the energy up to your stomach and swirl it around as you continue to move your hips in very small circular motions. Continue to do this and feel the energy down to your toes, up to your heart, and to the tips of you fingers and the crown of your head.

Repeat this exercise three times a day for a week to continue to connect with your own sexual energy. Noticing yourself, your feelings and reactions. Also, find ways to be sensual with your own body daily. Enjoy having a bath or shower, lathering soap over all parts of your body and appreciating each area of your body. If you dislike something about you, see how you can be grateful for it be seeing how it serves you. The more you have gratitude for your body, the more of your body you will have to be grateful for. Try going to bed in beautiful sheets, naked, feeling the sheets wrap around your naked body. Be conscious of what pleasure you and what turns you on by getting more in touch with your own body.

Some women do not have an orgasm until later in life, some earlier. Everyone is different and that is the beauty of life In discovering yourself, take the time to set the scene and light candles, play some music, run a bath first. When you are ready, slide into bed and rub your hands over your body, slowly, as if it was your first time exploring yourself. Glide your hand to your clitoris and begin rubbing yourself. Do you like it faster or slower? Do you like it harder or softer? Where else do you want to be touched? Slide between the sheets as you enjoy your own pleasure and body.

Let go of the idea you have to orgasm and just enjoy the pleasure of your own stimulation. Be in an aware state of mind, not rushing to the end. Remember to breath deeply to circulate the sexual energy around your body. Close your eyes to intensify the feelings and sensations.

Let this be the beginning of a love affair with yourself. Let nothing else engage your thoughts but your own magnificence and beauty. Let you find love with yourself by finding yourself, experience love and awaken lover inside.

Love,

Miss X.

Moving in with someone for the first time involves a whole new set of pains and pleasures. There is the challenge of freedom, sharing your space and other adjustment issues. Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of our partner and ourselves that contribute to arguments and teething issues. Having a balanced perspective of moving in will assist you in a smooth transition from living separately to living as a couple.

There can be a struggle for independence in the beginning. When your partner moves in, you may sense that you have lost your freedom or joy of solitude. Having lived so long on your own it feels like there is an element of ‘giving up’ to live with your partner. You feel you are ‘giving up’ your free time, personal space and the way you do things around the home. It could be called ‘sacrificing’ or ‘giving in’ to the other person. Others may not have the same time alone, or time to go and see friends. It may be perceived as a battle for freedom and constraint, intimacy and solitude or gain and loss.

Living alone there is freedom, living alone there is loneliness. Living together there is companionship and there are challenges. Loneliness and challenges are character building. You can’t hide from your true being when you are lonely or when you argue with your partner, as they know all the sides of you – even the ones that you don’t like. Nor can you gain from having freedom and companionship as there is loneliness in the freedom and freedom in the loneliness. Either way, alone or together, there are benefits and drawbacks to both sides.

Other people have unspoken expectations of what they liked about their previous relationship. They may remember they liked the way their ex cleaned up after themselves, or the way they cooked breakfast on the weekend, or that they loved watching a program on TV with you each week. In the same light, there were parts that they disliked, the way they left their hair in the sink, or left their clothes on the floor for you to pick up and wash.

These unrealistic expectations may be fantasy that everyone should act that way and when they do not met our expectations, we get upset. When we have unrealistic expectations, we set ourselves up for failure. When we expect another to live outside their values, we set ourselves up for failure. Sometimes your partner isn’t even aware of what theses expectations are, and you punish them for not doing what something you haven’t even told them about.

If you find you’re agreeing more than normal, take a look at your expectations of what you want and ask ‘What are the drawbacks to the fantasy?’. Maybe you have underlying reasons for creating the argument or an unrealistic ideal of what you wanted when you lived together. You are the creator of your world. See each moment as it is and ask how it serves you best.

We may think we have lost something, like our freedom and independence when we move in with someone. In actuality, nothing is missing – it has only changed form. It may have changed in your thinking freely, or more freedom at work, or with your time. You have more independence in social connections or with your family. Whatever the case, take the time to look where the new form is and see how this benefits you in this form.

With any new change in life there is an adjustment period. Being aware of everyone around you as well as yourself will help. You cannot know others in a meaningful way until you know yourself in a meaningful way. Take note of what is most important to you and them, and learn to communicate what you want in your home. Compromise without compromising who you are is the key. Self-awareness allows a much greater awareness of others and yourself. It will help understand the complexity and simplicity of the person you live with and yourself. It will take time to get to know each other on a new level.

Getting to know someone on an intimate and personal level by moving in with them can be very rewarding. By allowing others close, you get to know yourself.  They often help you see a side of yourself that you can acknowledge and love. This helps all of us grow and transform ourselves into our true nature or our authentic self. The greatest discovery you will have of yourself will often be made in the company of others. It is easy to shift the blame onto others and think that it is their problem and see what an impact it is having on us. It requires more effort to look at ourselves with reflection and transparency, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Sexual energy is the most powerful force on earth. Sexual energy can be expressed and experienced in many ways such as being attracted to someone or being intimate in bed with another person. It is the fire in our belly that lights up when you are inspired and awakened. Sexual energy is powerful in many ways. Not only does it bring a deeper more intimate connection with ourselves and our partners (both in and outside of the bedroom), it also awakens your mind, enables you to feel creative, to come up with new ideas, it can heal the body, and allows you to feel connected to the energy that permeates the world.

Everyone has sexual energy, it isn’t created – it’s already there inside each and every one of us. Sexual energy is the very source of one’s life, and therefore, it’s inseparable from life. You were born out of it. Both life and sexual energy are sacred, and should be honored without fear of connecting to it.

Some people in the world are open and express great degrees of sexual energy; they own their sexuality and their power. I know within myself, I can turn it on and turn it off when I want to – we all have that power. Tapping into your sexual energy begins first in your head and mind, then secondly in your body. Some people find they have ‘blocks’ in their sexual energy. They may repress, hide or ignore it. If you find that there are ‘blocks’ in your sexual energy, it is likely due to a block occurring in your mind. When we either neglect or repress our sexual energy, our entire body will suffer as a result.

If you know you are repressing your sexual energy, it’s wise to know that everything is conserved through time and space: if you repress your sexuality or cut it off, the Universal Laws make sure that someone else will express it (in your family, social circle, workplace, society or world) to make sure that nothing is missing.

Remember that nothing is ever gained or lost, it is only ever transformed into a new form. The the same principle applies for sexual energy. Your sexual energy – whether shut down or openly expressed – is currently in the form which you perceive is giving you the greatest benefit over drawback, the greatest reward over risk in your life. Once you can acknowledge and appreciate it in the form that you have it now, you then have the freedom and power to change it to the form you would love it to be.

Napoleon Hill wrote in Chapter 13 of his well-famous book Think and Grow Rich, that one of the secrets to success is the transform your sexual energy into creative business energy. He called this principle the ‘Law of Sexual Transmutation’. Mr. Hill stated that this is why men usually become more successful after they pass the age of 40 – because they lose interest in chasing after women, and therefore transform their sexual energy into business rather than wasting it.

After childbirth, women tend to transform their sexual energy into raising children – and can forget how to be a wife and partner to their husband. Some women may shut down their sexuality to their husbands as a result of perceptions of ‘bad’ events in their lives. Shutting down sexuality can also be a strategy not to be close to the partner we’re involved with – because of a desire to get focused on high priority tasks, distrust in the partner, desire for a relationship to end, and many other reasons.

So think for a moment now: in which area of your life is your sexual energy being expressed? Is it in your work or business life? Is it in your relationship, yourself, or your physical beauty? Or, do you have a balance between your relationship and work? Is it in the form you would love it to be?

You ability to generate sexual energy is limitless. Sometimes we strive for the ending, the orgasm that releases build up sexual energy in our bodies – yet there is so much more that you can do with that energy. You can channel the feeling and energy into so many areas of life. Any surplus energy is stored in the area behind the navel; ready to be used when you require it either for sex or other reasons.

Love,

Miss X

It’s been my observation that there is confusion when it comes to the masculine and feminine sexual polarity in our world today – because of the changing gender roles in society. Women used to stay at home and manage the household, while the man would go out and work as the provider or ‘breadwinner’. We are gradually moving over time to a more open and equality-based society. A woman no longer requires a man to provide for her, and she now has a tendency to be empowered and supporting herself financially and otherwise. There is perhaps a lesser degree of sexual polarity in many cases, but this has led and is leading to a more empowered society overall.

There is no denial that when we are feminine or masculine, that we won’t have traits that are considered by society as being masculine. Every human being has every trait – and those traits are not gained or lost. Our essence will sway and vary between being 25%-75% masculine and 75%-25% feminine. We require and need all traits to serve us in our growth in all areas of life.

As a general rule, 75% of men will focus on business, finance, and the mental area of life, while 75% of women will focus on family, physical appearance and social. There are certain character traits which commonly describe the masculine and feminine: women tend to be perceived as nurturing, social and focused on beauty (theirs and others) and men tend to be focused, powerful and intelligent.

Masculine and Feminine polarity is important in the dynamic between males and females. Women want to know that they are with a man. Men want to know they are with a woman. A man loves to be with a soft and gentle woman. At times, the roles in the polarity can be reversed and the woman becomes tough and the male becomes soft.

When in an intimate relationship is rough and strong in the masculine energy, you will tend to burn out quickly, and when it is soft and gentle in the feminine energy, you tend to get bored. It’s essential to have a balance of the two polarities – rough and gentle – in order to have sexual fulfillment.

I have noticed that when I have been with a man who is perceived as more feminine, I take on a masculine role. Today I am with a man who loves his masculine self, who is confident in being a man, and yet comfortable expressing himself – which in turn, allows me in my feminine core to express myself. My partner loves that I am strong and powerful on a mission of serving people, and he gets to practice the new things I learn. He also loves the soft and vulnerable side within me. It’s wise to be comfortable expressing both – as you have both traits within you.

When there is no polarity – no diversity between man and woman, male and female – it will often feel like being with your best mate. Without polarity there is no charge, no passion and desire.. It is boring and there is no intensity in your sex life. And so, in order for any sexual polarity to occur, there needs to be charge.

The act of lovemaking requires a charge of sexual desire and interest, and that charge is infatuation. Initially, during the honeymoon period of our relationship, we remain strongly bonded by high oxytocin levels. This leads to rapids rises and falls in dopamine levels within our body and corresponding rapid emotional fluctuations in our relationship. Over time, as the infatuation and it’s correlating responses lessen, we become less and less interested in sex with our partner.

There needs to be a polarity in the relationship for their to be excitement and an enjoyable sexual relationship. However, rather than buying into a dopamine high, it is important to neutralize the infatuation in the ne relationship so that there isn’t a hidden resentment building up.  Also during the relationship it is important work on the relationship but using the Demartini Method to dissolve the emotional charges, that build up to enhance your communication and appreciate him on a deeper level. Remember, you will never love someone for all of them, as you only perceive you love parts of them.

Love,

Miss X